Therapeutic Parenting Group: Destructive and Aggressive Behaviours

This programme is for foster carers and carers with an SGO who care for children that are showing violent and destructive behaviours (including self-destructive behaviours). It’s a friendly, safe and inspiring group that really helps!

This group can help with:

  • Violence towards carers, other children in the home or pets
  • School refusal
  • Running away
  • Self-harm
  • Drink and drug use
  • Isolating themselves

Many carers report that their confidence grows and as they begin to feel less helpless dealing with a difficult young person, find that their energy returns.

We are currently running the group for foster carers and carers with an SGO only but if enough other people would like it we could certainly run other groups in the future.

Our therapeutic parenting group is adapted from Day and Heismann (2015) It is based on the Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) therapy model.

Group format: The group consists of 8 sessions delivered over 8 weeks. Each session will be 2.5 hours long.

Group size: maximum 20 parents (ideally in pairs when possible)

Location: Lichfield

Cost: £650 per person £1200 for couples (any two people supporting the same child). Carers with an SGO can usually access the ASF to fund the group.


Dates: Thursdays for eight weeks 24th January 2019 to 21st March 2019 (excluding 21st February for half-term) 10am to 12:30pm

How does the Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) programme work?

Carers learn to resist the violence or controlling behaviour step by step, building on their experiences, support they receive, and their growing confidence. NVR is not a talking therapy and the young person is not engaged in any conversations about what may be causing him or her to feel angry or to lose control. The resistance uses action instead of talking. Talking is kept to a minimum and consists mainly of brief announcements or declarations, which are used to communicate what kind of action carers are taking and why.

There are four areas in which carers, with support, become active:

  • De-escalation – Carers develop strategies to manage risk, without getting involved in fruitless power struggles.
  • Breaking taboos – After months or years of ‘walking on eggshells’ and feeling they have to give in to their child’s demands if they wish to maintain peace in the family, carers learn to strategically ‘break the rules’ their child has set up for the family.
  • Taking non-violent action – Consequences and punishment no longer work. Carers raise their presence by carefully planned, delayed action within the home, and in the outside environment.
  • Reconciliation gestures – Certain gestures show young people that their families care about them. They help carers and children or young people relate to one another beyond the aggression.


Is this right for me or the family/carer I am supporting?

This process does need time and commitment from parents or carers for the 8 weekly sessions in order to be effective. Those parenting or caring as a couple are encouraged to attend together, single parents or carers are very welcome to bring a trusted friend or supporter.

Consent will also be required from the person/people that hold Parental Responsibility for the child and children in the household.

Sessions are most helpful for families or carers who can relate the material to a specific child or children in their care.


To book on this group, please call our office number on 01283 840051, use our contact form or send us an email to:


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